Issue:
failing marriage. Client feels like a failure and is upset that that the partner couldn't evolve to their high standard. Relationship needs redefining.
Message:
Did you succeed or did you fail? Of course you succeeded. You succeeded because you learned. You have learned so well that you now are so considerate of others - that you now have such high standards of others. You have learned, but the qualities in others that you wish to be around are very high. Because you live to them, you expect everyone else live to them. And if they do not live to this high standard, then you consider that it's your job to show them, and tell them how to be. And yes, you are right in that.
However, you must give them the free will to take their education at their own pace. You cannot take a fish out of the water and demand for it to grow legs right then and there, and evolve. It takes time. For some it takes many many lifetimes to develop some of these fine tuned skills that you already possess.
You consider your ability to be courteous to others and to follow through to be one of your highest, best qualities and I applaud you for seeing that in yourself. For being truthful with others - for wishing well to others - for being so punctual - for being so precise - for staying to your word. Those are all very high qualities. If you wish to live by them by all means do so. And if that brings you joy and makes you happy, that is wonderful too. Just don’t expect everybody else to learn those skills as quickly as you have learned them.
Seek happiness from within yourself rather than expecting it to come from the outside.
You have not defined your roles toward each other because you have not completed yourself. And your partner is not the puzzle piece to complete you. You are. Complete yourself.
You do not owe anybody anything. And nobody owes you anything. If people saw that, they'd understand that everything that you would wish for yourself you would wish for another because they are simply an extension of you. Every human being, every tree, every mouse is an extension of me, the Creator. You would never wish to hurt another part of me, which is a part of you. And the level of understanding would change completely between all parties about who they are, who the other person is, and they will be free to do as they wish. There would be no need to expect anything from each other because everything would be done on a free will basis.
Nobody’s forcing you to think this way. It is you who has forced yourself to keep thinking this way. You have the freedom to release these patterns. Think outside the box. Not "either / or," but "and." And your truth may change, evolve, graduate, go on to the next lesson. Embrace that who you were years ago is quite different from who you are now. So is your partner. So is your relationship. And it’s okay to re-look at it on occasion and see what parts are working for you, what parts are not, make proper adjustments as to what is not serving your highest purpose any longer. This takes some introspection. Maybe some writing would be helpful for you, or whatever your preferred method is for digging through your own beliefs and wishes. The process alone may be very helpful in allowing you to take the confusion, and sort it out.
This text is adapted from a client channeling session.